Thursday, April 23, 2015

Falling in love...

I was reading an article yesterday on Flipboard. 
The author said that there is a huge reason for so many marriages failing and yet nobody mentions it or even talks about it.


We watch the movies and read the books and everything is so dang adorable and we think that is how marriage is going to be. 
and we are going to have these darling children and we will love each other so much and nothing can be hard when we are so in love.

See Expectation.

I remember my dad telling me when I was younger a true story about when he was a bishop of a young married congregation.  Everybody that went to his church was just married or newlyweds.  He told me that these young marrieds were coming to his office in droves.  A huge majority of them having marriage problems all ready.
So my dad would inevitably ask what the problem was.
9 out of 10 times they would say, 
"I don't know, but marriage isn't what I thought it was going to be."

Darn they had an expectation.

Maybe it's true.  
I don't have an explanation of what happens in other peoples lives and why so many families are falling apart. I do think that the way love is portrayed now a days does skew our minds, but there have been love stories since the beginning of time.
I have always LOVED a good romance novel or movie.  Oh my goodness a good 17th or18th century English novel is always my favorite go to genre.  I have loved Jane Austen since high school and don't even get me started on the Bronte sisters. 
I can't remember if I had an expectation going into marriage or not.  
It was almost 25 years ago.  
I was 21 years old and so in love I couldn't see straight.  Maybe Tom is such a good husband that even if I had expectations he was continually exceeding them.
 I guess in the end I just like my life more then any book or movie I have seen because it's mine. 

I am the heroin in my own life.
(Stole this from the Holiday... clearly) 
The learning, the mistakes. the triumphs, they are all mine.
Tom and I are far from perfect (and who is?) but our love story truly is my favorite one.
It's uniquely us and I really, really love us.

And I can tell you this... when I watch him love and play with our kids... 
I fall completely head over heals, crazy over the top, in love with him over and over again.

1 comment:

My boy and I said...

I am seriously freaking out right now! Everything about this post is so perfect. I have always looked up to you and Tom. From my eyes (and it appears to be true after reading this post) that you guys have such an incredible marriage. I know you guys aren't perfect but I can tell you are both happy. And well, that's just really good :) I also love your new blog design. Talk about STUNNING family pictures! Ahh I just miss you so much! Love you dear aunti!

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